Choose Your Hard

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAA few weeks ago I was struck by a quote I saw on a fitness website that I often visit. It said, “Losing weight is hard. Staying the same weight is hard. Gaining weight is hard. Choose your hard.” I’ve been thinking about that ever since.

In the past few weeks I’ve had some health challenges that have felt ‘hard,’ and there have been times that I have not wanted to follow the advice of my medical professionals. (Too hard.) But less hard than suffering with a broken foot that hasn’t healed properly. Both hard, but I’m choosing my hard. I’m choosing to follow doctor’s orders (which feel hard) and improve my chances of a good outcome.

In the past several months I have also made major changes in my diet that at times feel hard, but have resulted in the changes in my weight and energy that feel great. In the past year, I experienced a major career change that greatly reduced my stress and increased my quality of life. Neither of those have been easy, but it was a ‘hard’ that I chose to accept.

Well, How ’bout You?

So what change in your life is hard? What is that thing that you have been wanting to do, but have been unable or unwilling to choose to do? In these fledgling days of 2014, what changes do you want to make in the New Year that even though they are ‘hard’ are going to get you where you are wanting to go?

As a spiritual direction and life purpose coach I work with individuals who want to make significant changes in their lives.  And change is hard. But they have decided to go deeper, choose their hard, and transform their lives.

So choose your hard. And make everything you do this day align with that purpose. And then get up tomorrow and do it again. Choose everyday to do something hard that will make a difference in your life.

Jennifer Hope Kottler is a spiritual direction and life purpose coach in private practice serving individual clients via phone and Skype across the country.  She also is a writer, speaker, retreat leader, and leadership consultant – specializing in work with non-profit professionals, community organizers and advocates. To learn more visit,