“The Power of Change For Leaders” Follow-Up Teleconference Podcast Talking Points Worksheet
On April 1st, 2015, Jenny Craig was WAC’s special guest on an intimate teleconference wherein she followed up from her webinar “The Power of Change For Leaders”. Throughout the conference, Jenny shared her wisdom and tips/tools for eliminating self-sabotage, helping participants learn how to live richer lives. Jenny’s background is in psychology and neurology. She has been a clinical therapist, and now coaches the employees of large corporations about self-sabotage, instructing them on how to make quantum leaps in productivity and success.
How to Adapt This Worksheet:
-Ponder the big picture questions, and jot down some notes. This exercise will help you warm up to the life changes you’re about to make.
-Use the time markers listed after the talking points for quick reference audio searching on that specific subject matter.
The Talking Points:
“Be aware of your thoughts, for they become your words; Be aware of your words, for they become your actions; Be aware of your actions, for they determine your success.” –A Chinese proverb, and a great place to start. (02:48)
-Your new goal is to begin to make choices that are not steeped in the past. Are you ready?
-Your emotions are faster than your thought. Your brain searches for reasons to make you “right”. This is where self-sabotage is born. We learn techniques to keep us safe. (03:54)
-Here’s a Question: How could strict parents have led to your being a procrastinator in your adulthood? Did you know that your outlook can be relearned, and the habit replaced, sending you on your way to long-term success? (04:54)
-Think About It: Why are motivational seminars often ineffective in the long-term for attendees? (07:21)
-On Becoming Aware of What Has Happened to You: Assess your negative thoughts and behaviors. It takes a tremendous amount of emotional energy to get through life. If we store this energy for later, it piles up, and begins to amount to “baggage”. If we can let go of this baggage, we can feel a real shift. Your pants from 2nd grade are never going to fit you, so let them go. This applies to thoughts and emotions as well. (09:45)
-Food for Thought: When we get hurt, we clam up. Only a certain part of the brain can work on that problem. When you share that hurt, another part of the brain is at work. When you get feedback on that hurt, yet another part of the brain lights up. (13:39)
-Have you heard of your Reticular Activating System (RAS)? Do you know what its function is? A hint: It relates to the 80,000 thoughts that our minds have per day. What percentage of those thoughts are the same as yesterday? As 30 years ago? How can a Vision Board be of assistance in directing your thoughts? (15:51)
-A Huge Roadblock to Change: We have a built-in tendency to make ourselves “right” when it comes to our thoughts, which is hard to reverse or “rewire”, since we are emotionally invested in those thoughts. (16:26)
-Think of your brain as a world map, and each country has a wonderful cognitive function, and they’re all interconnected by an information superhighway. To change a habit or thought, you need construction workers to tear out those highways and replace/redirect them. Neuroplasticity is achieved when you manage your own construction team. Where do you start? (18:15)
-Why is it important that you always speak and think in a positive tense? Although our brains understand tenses and double negatives, they may not result in self-development. (21:08)
-Exercise: Instead of looking for idiots every day, focus on the pleasant people you encounter. Jot down some reasons why this is beneficial, and compare them to Jenny’s wisdom on the subject. You’ll be delighted with the science here! (24:26)
-Reality Check: Why do women often have difficulty accepting praise? What are some of the gender-related origins of this predicament? How does reversing this situation empower us? (35:26)
-Proven Strategy: Have a “power buddy”…someone to hold you accountable for making a transition from self-sabotage. Be in touch weekly with your buddy, be open with them, and watch how you become comfortable being the new you in front of others. (37:14)
-Sound Advice: Part of the nature of change is resistance from others, often causing the changed person to slide back and lose momentum. Don’t be surprised by this, and don’t let it cause you a setback. Why does this resistance happen? How can you disallow it from sabotaging you? (39:36)
-A Cultural Phenomenon: When it comes to taking credit and accepting praise, what do we have in common with today’s 7th graders? (42:23)
-Brilliance is about sharing your strength and cluing in the world about how you can best contribute. This is different from narcissism, which is anti-productive. We learn by role models, and where there is the absence of one, that’s your place to step in. (43:20)
-Strange Days: If some stranger says something rotten to you, you can dismiss it as their response to a bad day. But if your neighbor or close friend says something mean to you, if can affect the rest of your month. What is this phenomenon called, and how can we break free from it? (46:13)
-Exercise: Write down everything you are ready to get rid of in your life. Then replace them with other strengths. For instance, instead of being angry forever about the con artist who stole money from you, reframe your outlook to be grateful to have learned from the experience and that it won’t happen to you again. (48:21)
-Someone without Emotional Intelligence will act like a 2-year-old when they’re 50. Why does this “drama queen” exist, and what can you do to prevent their drama from becoming your trauma? (50:38)
-Words of Wisdom: What famous world leader said “Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and waiting for your enemy to die.”? Hint: This leader had a good reason to be angry, but instead began a brand-new season. What can you learn from them? (52:27)
-Experiment: Write an angry letter giving voice to the bad thing that happened to you. Be fierce and unrelenting, using profanity if necessary. Then, set the letter on fire. What do you imagine can result? (54:12)