Missing Boundaries: When Pleasing Others Threatens Your Career Advancement

Professional women must manage a double-edged sword. We are tempted to be “people pleasers”, giving our time, energy and attention to the matters of others, usually to the detriment of our own career goals and healthful outlooks. In my recent article Traversing The Double-Edged Sword: On Releasing The Need To Please Others, I introduced you…

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Traversing The Double-Edged Sword: On Releasing The Need To Please Others

Throughout 2019 I’ve been using DRIVEN’s blog page to explore with you the different mindsets, attitudes and actions that professionals get caught up in, but that no longer serve them. The goal has been to demonstrate that we can release them, and then re-lease our lives to truly serve our best interests. Some releases have…

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Mindset Shift: Why Replacing Judgment With Evaluation is Critical

Did you happen to catch yourself judging others this past week? Have you thought to yourself or said to others, “You really should…” or “He’s just being…” or “Why can’t she just do it this way”? If your answer is “No”, either you’ve been in a dreamless coma since reading my recent article Drop The…

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Taming The Victor: How To Respond When The Other Person Needs To Be Right

Have you ever found yourself absolutely certain of something, only to find out later that you were totally off-base? This question, and others like it, are what we’ve been asking you to consider in our current exploration of a common addiction: always having to be right, even when you’re not. In my recent article Pressure…

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On The Road To Release: How To End The Blame Game

“Don’t be afraid to remind yourself that you are resourceful and resilient. With a little ingenuity, you will make progress towards managing the challenges of shame.” That was the central message in my recent article So Hard To Shake: The Challenge of Releasing Shame, which demonstrated that thanks to our negativity biases and our inner…

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Come Clean With Yourself: Releasing Guilt and Regret

Much of our career potential is cut off by an invisible force. It exists in a place where shame, embarrassment, lack of confidence and a fear of failing flourish. Ironically, we have control of this force, but often dupe ourselves into conforming to its limiting powers. This force is called The Past— a time when…

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Reframe, Move On and Grow: Releasing The Past

Whereas people can clearly see the control freak in you (if any), there’s an invisible system inside your mind that others cannot detect— a realm where each of us (psychopaths excluded) struggles greatly with the emotions of guilt, shame, regret, worry and anxiety. This mind-space keeps us in a trance, preventing us from practicing mindfulness…

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“I’m Right, You’re Wrong”: Why We’re Resistant To Others’ Ideas, Part 2

“It doesn’t hurt to consider all ideas, even when they’re not your own.” This sentiment may seem tongue-in-cheek, but there’s an important reality behind it that can mean the difference between career stagnation and true accomplishment. In my previous article— the companion to this one, I explored with you how being willing and able to…

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Your Gateway To Invulnerability: Releasing Resistance

We’ve all heard the cautionary words, “Resistance is futile”. It’s a premodern meme that originated on Star Trek as a warning of forced assimilation by one alien collective upon another— pretty powerful and assuming words when posed as a threat. But when we look just a bit deeper, this threat is also telling us something…

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Deeper Insight: Your Self-Care Resource Links

Throughout March, DRIVEN has been focused on Self-Care, providing you with a useful OfficeHours webinar on pursuing a healthful lifestyle, and various articles exploring this personal asset that even the seemingly well put-together folks in your industry may be secretly lacking. I hope you’ve taken advantage of these offerings and have re-leased your life and…

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