Throughout November 2019, DRIVEN has been pushing back against the Need to Please Others, revealing the ways in which this compulsion can actually work against you. We published four articles and delivered an OfficeHours webinar with special guest Juliana Ashley exploring how “people pleasing” and being nice all the time can be paralyzing for professional…

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January has clearly been our month to explore the drawbacks of perfectionism. I hope you’ve been following us on this journey and are already benefiting from the insight and advice we’ve been offering. For instance, in my recent article Re-Leasing Your Life: The 2 Greatest Strengths You’re Not Embracing, it was demonstrated how laughing at…

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As part of DRIVEN’s yearlong exploration of my 2019 Word of the Year— “Release”, we’re ExperiMenting with a special blogging format. At the beginning of each month, I’ll offer a thought, feeling or behavior that makes sense to release. Later in the month, I’ll dig into how to reframe the thought, feeling or behavior in…

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Plain and simple: A functional mind equals a sharp and creative professional who’s prepared to meet the challenges of a multi-dimensional career. Such a professional is experiencing a high level of emotional wellbeing with a strategy of compassion at her core. In my recent prequel to this article, I illustrated how compassion for colleagues begins…

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Our recent look at self-compassion focused on tending to one’s mind— you know, that crucial piece of equipment we rely upon as knowledge workers yet inflict abuse upon without remorse. I must confess that I don’t think Kristin Neff was referring to our mental energy when she wrote, “Self-compassion involves being kind to oneself with…

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You may have noticed that DRIVEN has been spending some serious time on the topic of self-compassion. Why, you may ask, is self-compassion so crucial to a professional’s success? The answer resides in neurochemistry. If you’re not kind to yourself, you can’t show true compassion for others. When you aren’t compassionate to others, they sense…

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In our exploration of emotional intelligence, the big questions lately have been, “How do we develop compassion?”, and more specifically, “What is the magical ‘fourth step’ that bridges us from empathy to the mutually beneficial state of compassion?”. In a past article I offered you some insight into the first three steps: Acknowledge another’s perspective…

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When you love what you do, you just jump out of bed each morning, right? Okay, here’s a confession: I do NOT jump out of bed each day, wide-eyed and clear-headed about what my morning will bring. As a matter of fact, for the first six months of last year, it took every ounce of…

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I’m savoring Olivia Fox Cabane’s book, The Charisma Myth. It’s like preaching to the converted. We totally see eye-to-eye on so many practices. My favorite: being present is a key to executive presence. Non-verbal communication is SO important… down to wearing clothing to a business meal that’s comfortable— lest you send off the wrong vibe…

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